Hi RISEers. We're about to enter Thanksgiving, and things might get chaotic. But instead of going in on the defensive, go in on the offensive. This is info-gathering time. Listen, Listen, Listen. And anything you hear that is super interesting, beyond the usual rhetoric, email it to us. We need to begin to parse out why so much of the country voted for Trump.
And before that turkey takes a trip across the table, use the following tips to avoid conflict if things get heated: (Thanks to RISEer Beth Bond.)
1. DESIGNATED DRIVER SOLUTION
Steer the conversation
When you see the conversation turning into an argument - or in some cases, full blown trauma - lighten the mood and guide everyone back to a smooth terrain.
Proven methods: spill your beverage, make a joke, expel gas loudly
2. IMPROV SOLUTION
Hear them out. Validate their fear. Then introduce a new thought.
For example: Yes! I can totally see why you think immigration has ruined job opportunities around here. Jobs are the backbone of our economy. And what I think is most fascinating is that tech optimization is actually our biggest threat to jobs! Isn't that interesting?
3. BEYONCE SONG SOLUTION (AS OPPOSED TO ADELE SNL SOLUTION OF JUST TURNING ON ADELE)
An exercise in empathy, body language and creating open lines of communication
When people feel heard, they feel safe to say what they really believe. Try to create a space that allows them to speak, free from judgement.
Look for defensive tells: increase in volume, heart rate and amount of time to respond - as opportunities to reinforce your objectivity.
4. GAMER SOLUTION
Rock, Paper Scissors
Best 2 out of 3
Seriously. Hold a tournament. The person who wins can reign as supreme leader all day - regardless of fact, reason or strategy.
It's the cool new way of making decisions
5. HRC SOLUTION
When they go low, go high
Rather than debating demagogugic rhetoric from altright.com, choose love.
"This turkey is delicious!"
"I'm thankful for all of the undocumented immigrant farmers who made this dinner possible."
"Isn't it wonderful they contribute $17 billion dollars annually in taxes?"
Disclaimer: most easily achieved in Alaska, California, Colorado, Maine, Massachusetts, Oregon and Washington.